Online dating is a new thing, in fact its the new "thing", exciting, unexplored mysterious waters, stimulating new experiences. This is where u really get to know the personality and character of that mysterious "crush". Dirty linens are exposed to the public, vulnerabilities are left to chance, trust is gambled with, limits are tested, fantasies revealed and not to mention visually and imaginatively enriching, kinda like standing on a ledge, eye closed and trusting an invisible voice to guide you to safety. Definitely the online version of Yolo.
The trick is getting the one person whom you are in sync with, thoughts, ideas, theories have to merge together effortlessly, two minds fitting perfectly like opposite ends of a jig-saw puzzle. As they say you must and will kiss many frogs before you find your prince charming/princess.
Compatibility, especially verbal and ideological synchronicity is important, undeniably vital. Considerable room should be left for the highs and lows of an exiting and unpredictable new adventure, one should muster enough courage to wander off into the unknown, Experience new and exotic types of emotions (unfathomable ).
A consistent kind of happy (like a friend of mine put it), always anticipating the next conversation, speaking out your heart without reservations about the consequences or fear of judgement, letting loose, swimming to the deep end of the pool, jumping off a cliff without the subconscious reassurance of a safety net below you and occasionally dreading the inevitable blackouts. Tell me, doesn't that sound Utopian?
Not necessarily a romantic connection, it could still be a mutually exclusive and symbiotic appreciation of each other's views, ideas, diction and ingeniousness, however bizarre or socially unacceptable the rationale, eventually a connection it still is. In fact, the more irrational the better. To me, weird is the new normal.
Boredom could and should be defined as as the state of being weary and restless through lack of interest, apathy or concern, which can be relieved by an occasional chat with a friend, digitally or face to face, that right there is my own personal definition and remedy.... As I said earlier its not always about "love" or romance, occasional flirting and perverseness is an excellent sign of a healthy friendly relationship.
Granted, any relationship is an equivalent reflection of a marriage, During the first days, things tend to be more heated up and exciting, questions need to be answered, gaps filled, buttons pushed (ladies tend to be uniquely gifted and better at this) .But ultimately the true and sure most test of friendship is time, no one wants to be stuck in a rot (missionary all the damn time). Then and only then you will know your true friends. Funny how I managed to roll of the point and weave a connection between online dating and true friendship, don't know how i got there, maybe i should dedicate this post to all my true and soon to be friends, maybe i just did..Mnajijua (i was told anonymity ni muhimu)..... cheers to meeting new people!
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