ONLINE..ish

Online dating is a new thing, in fact its the new "thing", exciting, unexplored mysterious waters, stimulating new experiences. This is where u really get to know the personality and character of that mysterious "crush". Dirty linens are exposed to the public, vulnerabilities are left to chance, trust is gambled with, limits are tested, fantasies revealed and not to mention visually and imaginatively enriching, kinda like standing on a ledge, eye closed and trusting an invisible voice to guide you to safety. Definitely the online version of Yolo.

The trick is getting the one person whom you are in sync with, thoughts, ideas, theories have to merge together effortlessly, two minds fitting perfectly like opposite ends of a jig-saw puzzle. As they say you must and will kiss many frogs before you find your prince charming/princess.

Compatibility, especially verbal and ideological synchronicity is important, undeniably vital. Considerable room should be left for the highs and lows of an exiting and unpredictable new adventure, one should muster enough courage to wander off into the unknown, Experience new and exotic types of emotions (unfathomable ).

A consistent kind of happy (like a friend of mine put it), always anticipating the next conversation, speaking out your heart without reservations about the consequences or fear of judgement, letting loose, swimming to the deep end of the pool, jumping off a cliff without the subconscious reassurance of a safety net below you and occasionally dreading the inevitable blackouts. Tell me, doesn't that sound Utopian?

Not necessarily a romantic connection, it could still be a mutually exclusive and symbiotic appreciation of each other's views, ideas, diction and ingeniousness, however bizarre or socially unacceptable the rationale, eventually a connection it still is. In fact, the more irrational the better. To me, weird is the new normal.

Boredom could and should be defined as as the state of being weary and restless through lack of interest, apathy or concern, which can be relieved by an occasional chat with a friend, digitally or face to face, that right there is my own personal definition and remedy.... As I said earlier its not always about "love" or romance, occasional flirting and perverseness is an excellent sign of a healthy friendly relationship.

Granted, any relationship is an equivalent reflection of a marriage, During the first days, things tend to be more heated up and exciting, questions need to be answered, gaps filled, buttons pushed (ladies tend to be uniquely gifted and better at this) .But ultimately the true and sure most test of friendship is time, no one wants to be stuck in a rot (missionary all the damn time). Then and only then you will know your true friends. Funny how I managed to roll of the point and weave a connection between online dating and true friendship, don't know how i got there, maybe i should dedicate this post to all my true and soon to be friends, maybe i just did..Mnajijua (i was told anonymity ni muhimu)..... cheers to meeting new people!

TAKE A CHANCE.

In retrospect i have always wanted to "blog" or  better yet chronologically string up thoughts that could be appreciated over a forum like this. But shit almost always doesn't turn out as you'd want or hope, every time ad take my laptop and try my best to put together a story and  to my surprise ad always end up blank. Maybe i was trying too hard at that particular time or maybe i really didn't have anything to say. We are always told "follow your dreams". Follow them i shout in agreement too....Surprisingly something phenomenally unforgettable has to almost always happen to you for you to realize that "blank" space in your life you are yet to fill. For me that has to be blogging or better yet touring all over the world. To accomplish the latter I would have to actually have saved a significant amount of money..a feat I am yet to achieve, but blogging I can and could start anytime I decided best, so I settled on the former.

It actually started out as a dare from a close friend, kind like how adolescents make a significant amount of their life changing decisions. I literally needed a nudge into reality, like I needed someone else to believe that I could actually do it, almost like I needed to hear them say it. Self doubt is realistically real, a vice that most of us undoubtedly do posses, its like a chronic illness, dragging us down insidiously and with astonishing deception ( chini ya maji ), ridding us of our most precious talents.

I like to think I do posses some sort of talent, a talent that enables me to literally comprehend the ups and down of the English diction, to maneuver through the hidden bends and invisible curves of phrases woven together with words and eventually understand what is being put across. Astonishingly, my friends always make fun of how I talk, words don't flow smoothly out of my mouth with the same effortless ease as when i am jotting them down, pronouncing some of them "big", "bizarre" words becomes next to impossible, so I (or rather, most of us) have adopted this ingeniously modified form of English that we refer to as "sheng" that makes communication way much easy especially among age mates. Its a well crafted mixture of both English and Swahili, poetically strung up together whilist adding a little bit of this and a little bit of that. It honestly has a nice ring to it. If you literally heard me talk, i am inclined to think you would be awed, but that's just my opinion. My point is people already have and will have to get past some challenges for them to nature their talents, please don't get left behind. Cheers to exploiting our talents and enjoying the many benefits they will offer!!